This is a classic and is perhaps the most common of flirting and attraction signals. It indicates a submissive, interested and alluring mood on the part of the woman doing it. Most importantly it is “shorthand” for: “I’ve noticed you and I like what I see. I can’t look away so I’m sneaking another look. My Smile is to let you know I’m feeling good and want you to know it.” Generally the gesture is quite quick and meant to attract attention. If the man doesn’t get it after several attempts then the woman usually gives up on him as “just too stupid to mate with”.
A sideways glance over a raised shoulder highlights curves and the roundness of the female face. This signifies estrogen and exposes the vulnerability of the neck and releases pheromones. Women instinctively do this when trying to flirt.
I enjoyed your article. I was glad you included the wrist display and the “Insightful purse” gestures. Both are highly accurate attraction gestures. I thought I might add one gesture I was surprised wasn’t expounded on more.
From a woman’s perspective, confidence, comfort and security are her top priorities in searching for a man. Fortunately for those of us who know what we’re doing women are excellent judges of real, natural behavior and if you are being fake there is good chance she will pick it out a mile away; she is always going to be trying to figure out what is going on inside your head.
What really happened there was you (the man) simply didn’t know how to interpret the unspoken signals the woman was sending over to you. If you had known what they were and what they meant, the outcome could have been very different indeed!
A study in the journal Evolutionary Psychology postulates a reason for the difference between how men and women flirt. Basically, you’ve evolved to be hyper-perceptive of sexual interest so you don’t miss any opportunities. Women, however, have evolved to be less perceptive of sexual interest because hopping on every caveman they run across means they end up stuck with less than ideal mates and more offspring than they can take care of.
If your answer is a yes, then you should be happy because it’s a sure sign that she is comfortable. Those are positive signs of approval and interest. She might try her best to laugh as loud as she can and giggle even at the most pitiful jokes. Take note also of any boisterous behavior when you are in the same room. It’s an indication that she badly wants you to notice her.
When it comes to feet, I think it’s contextual to the sitting position you are in. If you’re wearing a skirt for example, it will be hard pointing with the knees and so instead some women will opt for using their feet to point. Feet as a general rule, are more reliable for standing positions rather than sitting ones where knees apply.
Raised eyebrows. This can be used in a number of situations, but most of the time, it’s a good thing. When paired with a smile and a nod, raised eyebrows means that she agrees with what you’re saying—even if it’s just because you’re the one who’s saying it. Women will also raise their eyebrows after making eye contact to show that they like what they see.
Actually many of these body language signs are taken from the psychological studies of Paul Ekman as well as the work of Allan Pease and the studies of Joe Navarro (ex fbi agent and body language ‘lie detector’).
She seems physically uncomfortable around you. A woman who is interested in you will face you directly, lean in toward you and relax her body. Folded arms, a stiff back and leaning away from you are signs that she wants out of the situation.
Ive often observed in myself that when we seek to justify our decisions of doing or not doing something, we generalize things in extremes like “this always happens to me” or “all men are jerks” but its just a mental comfort mechanism.
First, the lady spots a man she likes. She catches his gaze and holds it for a few seconds, then looks away. He becomes intrigued, and keeps watching to see if she is going to repeat the same manoeuvre. She repeats it, on average, three times, so now he should have no doubts that he is definitely welcome.
I try once more, enunciating every syllable. It feels awkward, speaking so slowly, standing so squarely, holding my head so still. I am fighting an urge to fold my arms over my chest. as I talk, I feel a rising recognition that my aloof posture has put me in control. I could eat Amneh for lunch.