People certainly think about the facial expressions they make, but they don’t think too much about what their feet are doing. This is why the feet are so important in reading body language. Women can definitely fake certain facial expressions, but they don’t purposely fake what their feet are saying.
These include palms up rather than down, hands gesturing rather than stuffed in pockets, arms and legs uncrossed, torsos facing toward rather than away, not hiding behind barriers which can include drinks held across the chest, stools or tables, relaxed facial expressions, and smiling.
Be Warned: Female Body Language is very much open to interpretation. Many signals have different meanings depending on the person/situation. Keep this mind when you assess female body language signals.
Have you ever noticed how when you’re hanging out with a group of close friends that you sometimes start mirroring their bodily actions? Psychologists actually have a term for this called “postural echo.” This is a subconscious reaction that indicates comfort and rapport and, in the case of a woman you are flirting with, attraction. Lean in and notice if she leans as well. Pick up your drink and watch to see if she picks hers up too. If she does, this is a strong sign that she’s attracted to you.
Even when talking to a woman, her eyes will tell you a lot about how she feels the interaction is going. For instance if she holds strong eye contact while you talk and while she talks to you, this is a definite sign that she finds you attractive. If she goes as far as to occasionally glance at your lips while you talk, you can bet that she’s really, really into you.
Does she rub her arm for no reason, or smooth down her dress when talking to you? Generally women who touch themselves due to an itch or to fix their clothing do it discreetly, so if she’s doing it right in front of you, chances are she’s trying it to draw your attention to her body.
Women will show their meekness and submissiveness by softening their voice and lowering their voice volume. However, when they become aroused, their voice volume will increase, they will speak faster and seem giddy, their thoughts will race, they may also show nervousness by stuttering or be at a loss for words and freeze up. A change in voice character can therefore be an indication of interest. Often, the voice increases in pitch and laughing takes place more readily and often in unison with the person they feel attraction towards. When laughing happens during more benign conversation and conversation is directed at the expense of involving others, it’s a signal that things are intensifying.
Wrist display is definitely of the big ones, over the years I’ve also learned a few other gestures that seem to emerge but go unnoticed by most of us. The legs being the limbs furthest away from the head, it’s the part of our body we have least conscious control of and consequently the most revealing.
“She’s not always screaming for attention. It can just be confidence in herself and her sexuality,” says sex therapist Chris Donaghue, Ph.D., who adds that cleavage aside, another non-verbal cue to watch for is to see if her body is turned toward you and leaning in as you talk.
The second class of signals relates to a woman’s health and youth – her sexuality and sexual assets. Some of those signals include auto contact or self touching, bending over or pushing the rump in a man’s direction, leaving legs uncrossed or re-crossing them in view, leg twine, putting the chest on display, tossing the head, playing or flicking the hair, object caress, suggestive lip licking, pouting, removing clothing or playing with shoes, hiking the skirt, grooming, the parade or catwalk and hip tilting,
The easiest way of staying alert to someone’s body language is to take a step back (mentally, not physically), to observe them. If you are too caught up in the conversation and worry about how you are perceived, what to say next, etc. you won’t be able to study their body language at the same time.
Her fingers could likewise be telling you something. Signs of her interest in you can also be viewed from the way she moves her hands and fingers. She may caress her lips, collar bones and neck to let you know she fancies you. If she is drawn to you, her heart will beat faster and make her feel nervous. Thus, she may fiddle or lightly play with her jewelry to ease her tension.
Don’t read every accidental touch as a sign of attraction. What you’re looking for isn’t one isolated example. What you’re looking for is a repeated pattern. If she keeps banging her elbow against yours in a totally empty room, she’s attracted to you. If she brushes her arm up against yours once in a room full of people, she might very well be into you, but she’s not signaling anything other than being in a crowded room.
As you’re flirting, see how she reacts — “good” or “bad”. This will determine how to proceed. Typically, she’ll show multiple signs at once (laughing, sitting close, facing you, strong eye contact) that you can pick up on.
The more engaged a woman is the more attention you’ll get from her body. What you want to look for then, is that her head, torso, and feet are all facing you. All of that together is a powerful signal she likes you/the conversation you’re having. However if her head and torso are facing you but one or both feet are pointed elsewhere, that body language is a sign she’s not fully engaged. (To learn more about body language and attraction, check out the Pickup Podcast toolbox episode on how to attract women with body language)
Although there are things that are just “human” and a burnt into our existance, I think behaviour might change depending on the society we live in. Citing a study from 1985 and 1989 and especially citing only one study (!) seems to be a little far from reality nowadays. I appreciate the effort and the overlook, but I would have loved to see a more thorough and current study. Therefore, thanks for the effort, I can’t take everything seriously though. Best, B.
I noticed something today when I was on delivery. I saw a point where women bite their nails if they are eyeing up on at times? I had this happen at work today, and she kind of stared half at me and looked down at the same time. I found it a bit aggressive in all honesty and quite intimidating the way she went about it. also, she had a kid, and looked like 1 could be on the way, so this I didn’t take kindly to either. I was walking back up 10minutes later, she was there still, I noticed some muttering as I walked past. We also drove past her again in the van 10minutes later as we had finished that part of the route on our working delivery point, I noticed she looked again. I’m on there tomorrow and Saturday also. Tbh, I hope she isn’t there or is indoors. She lives at the house. I just found it to be quite aggressive.
Communication is very important in our daily lives. We understand one another if we communicate with each other. Sometimes, you don’t need words to express how you really feel about something.You only need your body to convey what you want to tell to a certain someone. That’s right! Even when we opt not to talk, it seems that we are sending off “signals” subconsciously. This nonverbal communication is what you call body language. Even before, body language plays a serious role in the attraction of women.
i was talking to a girl a lot this past week and she did a few things that ring a bell and idk if she’s interested or not… so first thing she didnwas she seperated herself from her freind she had been next to practically the entore time to sit next to me, when she sat next to me she kept alternating between a position where her knees were on the ground, butt back, chest down, and another position where she had open legs with both feet turned towards me, then we were also doing a group project after that and me and her had finished what we needed to do and were watching the other people work, we were both standing and not talking to each other at the time and then all of a sudden she leans on me for a good 3 seconds, she had her head on my chest and everything, then after she stood back up she kinda laughed a bit and said sorry
If it appears cool where you are but she removes her jacket or sweater, it may mean that she’s getting hot for you. You may also wish to take notice if she pulls her sweater or sweatshirt over her head, to remove a cute little camisole top underneath.
Increases in female sexual hormones influences female behaviour causing women to act flirty during a specific moment in her cycle. Research has shown that women we seek out sexual opportunities during ovulation and even prefer the manly musk of men during this period of high receptivity. However, during this time, she may deliver a higher frequency of cues and they may be omnidirectional.
And just as our physical experiences influence our memory, feelings, and social judgment, they also seem to dictate how we conceive an abstract concept like power. In a study published last year, psychologists Dana Carney, PhD, and Amy Cuddy, PhD, had their subjects spend two minutes in one of two types of poses—either an open, expansive “power pose” (for example, leaning back in a chair with feet propped up on a desk, fingers laced CEO-style behind the head, elbows out) or in a tight, constricted pose (say, sitting with shoulders hunched, legs together, hands clasped in lap). The people who struck expansive poses reported feeling more powerful than the others did, and went on to make riskier decisions in a subsequent gambling game. Most remarkably, they experienced a measurable physiological shift: Their testosterone (the hormone that, in both men and women, is linked to assertiveness and energy) spiked by 19 percent, while their levels of the stress hormone cortisol fell by 25 percent.
With her provocative writing style and penchant for in-depth research, Carrie Borzillo has earned renown and respect over her 20 years as a music and entertainment journalist. She has also written about sex advice columns for Gene Simmons’ Tongue Magazine, SuicideGirls, and THC Expose Magazine, and has appeared as a sexpert on national shows such as “Loveline” with Dr. Drew, Playboy Radio, and others.