One of the most common signs that people who want to know how to read female body language is the signs of disinterest. Might be the signs that several men usually get from women showing their hateful feeling is when a woman starts rolling her eyes. This shows that the woman is trying to tell the man in front of her eyes that she is really tired and sick as he is standing next to her and looking at her.
As usual, I dug into the research literature. As it turns out, a few pioneering researchers have covertly watched women flirting, in bars and on campuses, to answer these very questions. Through their observations, they have found a number of nonverbal behaviors and body language cues that women use to signal their potential interest to men, and motivate men to approach them, too.
What men should take away from this is that most women can send mixed signals, so don’t lose hope if she’s not necessarily sending the positive ones noted in the book. Women are complicated. I know that sucks but there you go.
Remember what I said above about eye contact. Looking you in the eye? That’s just polite. “Gazing” at you? That’s something else entirely. And so it is with personal questions. Going through the “where are you from, what do you do, where did you go to school” rigamarole isn’t a sign of attraction. Asking questions specifically tailored to who you are, the conversation the two of you are having that help her to get at who you really are deep down, that’s a sign of attraction.
For example, a girl might mirror your body language. If you all of the sudden cross your arms, she will too. If you take a drink of your water at dinner, she does right after. If you look across the room away from her, she’ll turn her head and look at what you’re looking at.
Hairdressers and masseuses do it all the time as well. “I never do it on purpose, but it does happen and sometimes the guy will then start to get flirty with me because he’s thinking I did it for him. But, I did it once on purpose to a guy in a bar to get his attention, so I can see how guys would get confused,” says earlier posts, I have discussed how to flirt and be attractive in general, and I have shared research on how to get a guy’s (or gal’s) attention. Yet I still get emails from women asking how to let a guy know they are interested — and get him to approach them. I also get emails from men who want tips, beyond basic body language cues, that help them know a woman is really interested in them.
Are you in a room full of people but always catching her looking at you? Perhaps she’s just staring and smiling. If she’s not looking at anyone else, it’s a pretty good indication that she is only interested in you.
Gruenfeld and her colleagues have likewise found that when people strike a power pose, they perceive themselves as being physically stronger and taller than they really are. Other researchers have discovered that adopting an expansive posture can even increase a person’s tolerance for pain.
Tight Legs: Unlike other crossed leg gestures that show negativity, defensiveness or uncertainty, when women cross their legs in a flirtation environment and don’t use other negative gestures such as crossing their arms, this indicates the female is trying to draw attention to her legs by tightly pressuring one leg firmly against the other to emphasize their high muscle tone. Psychiatrist Dr Albert Scheflen goes on to even suggest that such a gesture is the position a body takes when the person is preparing for sexual performance.
This gesture is performed by a person with a soft side. It is given by someone who is prepared to let their guard down to someone else and take on a smaller overall profile. It can be as subtle as a small lift in the shoulders or could be a full shrug and hold of the shoulders. It can often happen very quickly though, and can occur in accompaniment with an eyebrow flash as well as eye contact.
One of the most clearly body language signs of disinterest women make that men can often catch in busy social places such as clubs and bars is that after a woman noticed that a man is about to approach her, she will avoid eye contact with him immediately. In this case, tip for you is very simple that you just need to try to warm the atmosphere up by start talking something very funny, showing you are friendly and harmless to her. Also, stop your impolite eye glance because that makes the woman very uncomfortable. Or else, if you are unlucky as she avoid eye contact with you just because you are not her type, what you need to do is stop the hopeless effort and find another chance!
The first step is to make eye contact to show specific interest. So your task is to catch his attention as he looks around the room and look directly into his eyes. When your eyes meet, smile slightly and hold the connection a little longer than normally done. Do it noticeably longer than when looking at other men and friends. This is definitely a very special gaze, and it packs a powerful body language message: “I have great interest in you.”
This is another popular one a lot of men I have met overlook. When a woman is attracted to a man she will usually make frequent side long glances without shifting her head. Usually she will only look until the man notices her then she will quickly proceed to look away.
When it comes to dating, using and reading female body language signals is a great tool. These non-verbal signals will help you in dealing with the person but stay focused on what the person is saying.
When we are in a good mood our body language becomes lighter and more energized. We perform what body language expert Joe Navarro calls “gravity-defying” gestures (FYI most of the tips on reading body language in this article were taken from his awesome book What Every Body is Saying).
I try once more, enunciating every syllable. It feels awkward, speaking so slowly, standing so squarely, holding my head so still. I am fighting an urge to fold my arms over my chest. But as I talk, I feel a rising recognition that my aloof posture has put me in control. I could eat Amneh for lunch.