These include palms up rather than down, hands gesturing rather than stuffed in pockets, arms and legs uncrossed, torsos facing toward rather than away, not hiding behind barriers which can include drinks held across the chest, stools or tables, relaxed facial expressions, and smiling.
The third way a woman indicates sexual interest are proximity related and the desire to increase proximity. These cues indicate that approach by men is welcomed and permitted or that courting which is already in progress may increase in intensity. This includes leaning in, the room encompassing glance, crossing the legs toward, pointing toward with the fingers and toes, torso orientated toward rather than away, fluttering of the eyes, high blink rate and high chew rate (if eating), increased touching, hugging with the hips pressed against hips, shallow breathing and panting, flared nostrils, and mirroring.
Likewise, flirting doesn’t mean that someone actually likes you. It means they want to flirt with you. Bartenders often flirt with everyone. Sales people too. They have no intention of taking it anywhere beyond making you smile; ensuring you’re having a good time.
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Most likely he is fearful of misreading your invitation and will be rejected. This is especially fearful because it would be public rejection in front of all the other men and women watching him try to score. Men’s greatest fear at this point is a loss of status as a “good hunter”.
One of the most popular and well-known female’s attraction signs through body language telling a man that she is willing for a kiss from that man is when she starts looking at the man’s eyes directly, most commonly at the same time, she also probably starts looking at his mouth. This is called “triangular gazing” as her eye contacts slowly going from the man’s right eye to his left eye, and then slowly going from the eyes to his mouth all form a triangle shape. Knowing this tip on how to read female body language attraction and facial expressions, you will be able to get higher success rate and chances to approach and sexually seduce the woman you want the right way and on time.
After a woman starts giving you signs of interest one of the most important things that will create success is how quickly you act. I have met many guys who consider it a sort of “done deal” once a woman is interested in and attracted to them. This is not the case at all.
Unconsciously, he will be eager to please you and say, “Thank you for not making me look like a failed hunter!” This is all going on at an unconscious level. At a conscious level, he is probably aware that everyone is watching him. He will do everything to show everyone there that you accepted him eagerly. Often this is done by offering you something like a drink, food, or cigarette so that you will reach out and accept it. That is a symbolic gesture indicating that you accepted him. At this moment, it is extremely important for him to show the world that he is not a failed hunter and a useless pile of mastodon crap. That is how he would feel if you rejected him now in front of everyone there.
Bouncing and behaving hair is one of the secret weapons of the seasoned female flirter. A woman will flip her hair, tuck it behind her ears, play with her bangs or whip strands of her hair in circles.
I’m very expressive with dance, but I’ve learned rapidly that dancing in bars and clubs is a dangerous territory for me, as I’ve experienced both men and women trying to physically pick fights with me in some format, in a mocking format and borderline aggressive manner. Needless to say, that now, I favour social dance events which are safe with other dancers who can ACTUALLY dance! (unlike those in the bars/clubs who wouldn’t know rhythm if a rhythm stick whacked them square in the dansical hips whilst the most tribally rhythmatic songs were playing)
Any facial expression can briefly appear as a microexpression. If a woman is happy but trying to conceal it, it’s only a matter of time until a smile briefly flashes across her face. If she’s trying to hide a negative emotion that will eventually be revealed as well. She may briefly crinkle her nose (the sign for disgust) or curl just one corner of her lip back (contempt). If you see a microexpression that suggests one of these negative emotions it’s probably time to change environments or topic of conversation.
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Nine times out of 10, when a woman passes by you and brushes her boobs up against you, it’s not what you hope it is. “As a waitress, I’ve accidentally clocked a guy in the head with my breasts when I was bending down to put his plate down,” says Meghan.
I have noticed when I talk to girls who seem interested in me that they do check most of the “good” boxes but with eye-contact, they don’t hold it but after 3-4 seconds they hold it but only hold it for 3-4 seconds. Is it a sign of disinterest? Otherwise, they seem to enjoy my company.
Have you ever noticed how when you’re hanging out with a group of close friends that you sometimes start mirroring their bodily actions? Psychologists actually have a term for this called “postural echo.” This is a subconscious reaction that indicates comfort and rapport and, in the case of a woman you are flirting with, attraction. Lean in and notice if she leans as well. Pick up your drink and watch to see if she picks hers up too. If she does, this is a strong sign that she’s attracted to you.
Look for mirrored movements. Often, a woman who is interested will subconsciously mirror your movements. This shows that the two of you are on the same wavelength and can thus increase intimacy in the relationship. That’s why dancing is considered intimate or sexy—it forces you to mirror each other’s movements! 
I’m a woman, and I must say, from a woman’s perspective not all of the body language signals mentioned here are completely accurate. I’m no expert, but given the highly individualistic and subjective nature of body language, I think this book did a good job in discussing the more commonly observed ones.
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Kostopoulos starts by leading us through a series of warm-up exercises. At first, the scene is yoga-esque. We step out of our shoes and stand tall, close our eyes, and take deep, slow breaths. But before long, the tempo changes, and Kostopoulos has us jumping up and down, shaking our arms, swinging our hips, blowing raspberries, and making kooky faces, alternately sticking our tongues out and then scrunching up our noses. All the while, we’re huffing out husky ha-ha-ha sounds from deep in our bellies. Kostopoulos encourages us to experiment with a deep voice. “You don’t want Mary Tyler Moore,” she squeaks, then drops her tone an octave: “You want Diane Sawyer.”
My other problem would definitely be,. (other than being autistic), i’ve never wanted kids. I can’t tolerate them so maybe women deep down know this and just hate my guts with a passion as a result? haha!
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Teaser: If you’re lucky (or unlucky…depends how you look at it) to come across a teaser, this will be the type of girl that uses long cylindrical objects as a form of unconsciously suggesting what may be to come. For instance, she can use a variety of objects while using her thumb and index finger to rub up and down that object, it can also be one of her fingers (sometimes even repetitively taking a ring off and putting it back on), a cigarette, a long dangly earring, the stem of a glass, a straw and, well, you get the picture. In the example picture on the left you have Angelina Jolie doing a Vagina Mouth + Teaser combo symbolically using her finger as something else (aka. a penis).
Beyond those flirting behaviors, once a man approached, women also touched in a number of ways to show interest as well. Often, they caressed an object, or the man’s face, arm, leg, or back. Or, the woman might position herself so her knee, thigh, or foot were touching the man to show interest. In some instances, a woman might even initiate a hug or hang off a man.
The easiest way of staying alert to someone’s body language is to take a step back (mentally, not physically), to observe them. If you are too caught up in the conversation and worry about how you are perceived, what to say next, etc. you won’t be able to study their body language at the same time.
It sounds silly, but I see guys missing attraction signs all the time when we take them out on field nights. They spend lots of time and energy getting a girl interested, then miss every sign that she’s interested back. He walks away frustrated, because he doesn’t know she’s been hanging on his every word, even though the signs are really obvious to me and the other coaches.
Reading a female’s use of shoes and her feet as part of her body language could fill a book on its own. We may later dedicate an entire page to this form of subtle communication. The Shoe Dangle is a strong but subtle message to a man. Translated it says: “By half slipping off my shoe I’m indicating that I am relaxed, comfortable and may be willing to undress further.” Also, for many men (even those that won’t admit it), the female foot is (strangely) attractive. Women worldwide spend Billions of Dollars on footwear and pedicures and they do it for a reason!
This is a great book for men wanting to find out if a female is really into you. By just following there body language a man can learn a lot from a female. This book provides an introduction on what to look out for: eyes, surrounds, touching, smile, legs, and the other parts of the body. Knowing what to look out for, will give you a greater advantage to your peers who are not aware of female body language.
#4 Smiles more. Smiling is one of the top indicators when trying to figure out if a girl likes you. This simply means she enjoys your company and doesn’t mind having you around. Take note of how she reacts to others. If she smiles just as widely and as often, then you may have to look out for other cues of interest. But if you’re certain that she’s treating you to a bulk of her smiles, you have it in the bag.
While you have his attention, you should do the second part of this process: Break eye contact and look DOWN. Look down and fuss with your drink, inspect your nails, fluff your hair, straighten your clothing, or do anything looking down.
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Overactive eyelids. If she’s batting her eyelashes, she’s definitely flirting. While this move is very cliched, the stereotype comes from somewhere. If a woman is interested in you, she’ll blink slightly faster than she would normally.
The female persuasion has worked on many a man since the beginning of time. Just ask Adam. Little girls learn early how to get the attention of little boys by doing things like twirling their ponytails and dropping their school books. So it comes as no surprise that a grown woman is good at using body signals to let a man know she’s definitely interested. Words don’t need to be spoken when a woman has identified the object of her affection. She just uses what she has to get what — or who — she wants. Here are a few examples of how women express their interest in the person whom she has her eyes set on: