Sometimes you’ll even notice a woman’s pupils dilate while she’s listening to you talk. You see, our pupils dilate in low light conditions and when we’re experiencing feelings of intense attraction and desire. So if you notice this in a woman you’re flirting with, you’re doing a good job and should probably escalate things physically as soon as you can.
The first opportunity to try my newfound skills comes at my daughter’s softball game the next week. My target is her coach; in an instructional league for 9-year-olds, his overriding goal is to win, no matter the cost. Game after game, I’ve watched my daughter languish in the outfield while the same cast of players (including the coach’s child) spends almost every inning in the infield. Two weeks earlier, my husband sent a temperate e-mail to the coach questioning this imbalance but received no reply. Now, watching my daughter attempt to stay alert in left field, I decide that I need to confront the coach, no matter how uncomfortable doing so makes me feel.
This is the first out of the best tips on how to read female body language and facial expressions that I would like to introduce in this entire article and want you and my other readers to learn and remember for good!
Male flirting body language is usually not so rich. Normally, men display signals that display power, wealth and status and are not very good at sending or receiving signals used in courtship game; mostly they simply react to what they see. A man might straighten his tie, touch his watch, and brush imaginary dust of his shoulder.
Moves away from you. A negative sign of female body language is when a woman moves away from you. Whether she steps back or leans away, her body language is saying that you are invading her personal space. She doesn’t want to be close to you, and she’s not feeling the love.
I’m always amazed at how many guys overlook touch when it comes to attraction. don’t touch guys they’re not interested in. That includes a lot of “accidental” touching. For a variety of complex evolutionary reasons, men tend to initiate while women tend to put on the brakes. What this means is that while you might initiate an overt touch, she probably won’t. What she’ll do instead is “accidentally” touch you.
The first step is to make eye contact to show specific interest. So your task is to catch his attention as he looks around the room and look directly into his eyes. When your eyes meet, smile slightly and hold the connection a little longer than normally done. Do it noticeably longer than when looking at other men and friends. This is definitely a very special gaze, and it packs a powerful body language message: “I have great interest in you.”
For a cue to have specific meaning, it should be anchored to a person. This is accomplished through proximity and eye contact. Eye contact is how cues are targeted over a great distance. For example, a woman can lick her lips, toss her hair and cant her head to the side, but all this lacks meaning until gaze anchors it to a specific person. If that person fails to catch and read the signal correctly, she will simply send the signal to another man she fancies with no great loss to her.
…for example. These signals usually don’t occur in isolation (if they do you could misinterpret), but will be done together or one after the other, for instance fiddling with a bracelet and then touching her neck
If she is sitting, she will now sit straight; emphasizing her breasts and crossing her legs to display them to the best advantage. If she is standing, she will tilt her hips to highlight the nice curve in her back, and she will tilt her head to expose her bare neck. She will also straighten her clothes, flick her hair and even lick her lips.
It’s really important when looking at body language to look at the full picture. A woman giggling a lot can mean she likes you, but it can also mean she’s a giggly kind of person. If she touches herself seductively while looking at you, she’s trying to seduce you for one reason, or another, but if she doesn’t do that, it might simply mean she’s too shy to do so. She could still want to seduce you, or be seduced by you. And shy or not, we’re all distracted sometimes due to events in our lives, but it doesn’t mean we aren’t interested in the person in front of us. It just means we’re pre-occupied.
Beyond those behavioral differences, Moore and Butler (1989) evaluated the general attractiveness of the women observed. On average, there was no difference in attractiveness between women who were approached and those who were not. Therefore, the men approaching the women was as a result of the women’s behavioral differences — not their looks. In fact, according to the analysis, an unattractive woman who displayed a lot of solicitation behaviors was more likely to be approached by men than an attractive woman who did not display solicitation behaviors.
And additionally, plan ahead and let the men know you are a healthy woman and proud of it by showing a little skin on shoulders, upper arms, and back — and anywhere else socially acceptable. Men love to see a woman’s skin! Clean, clear, and smooth skin is a sign of good health, and that is high on men’s unconscious desired traits in a mate so he can produce healthy offspring. This mating game is serious business, so don’t leave anything to chance.
The second class of signals relates to a woman’s health and youth – her sexuality and sexual assets. Some of those signals include auto contact or self touching, bending over or pushing the rump in a man’s direction, leaving legs uncrossed or re-crossing them in view, leg twine, putting the chest on display, tossing the head, playing or flicking the hair, object caress, suggestive lip licking, pouting, removing clothing or playing with shoes, hiking the skirt, grooming, the parade or catwalk and hip tilting,
She is likely feeling a little angry and frustrated that you ignored her and wondering why. Quite rightly so, because she undoubtedly gave you the right unspoken signals from afar that should have caused you to come over and say, “Hi.”
If you focus too much on their body language signals, you and/or the girl may feel uncomfortable. It is useful to be able to read female body language signals, but it is equally useful to learn how to get your body to send the right signals and eliminate the wrong signals. See below for some tel tale female body language signals.
Hairdressers and masseuses do it all the time as well. “I never do it on purpose, but it does happen and sometimes the guy will then start to get flirty with me because he’s thinking I did it for him. But, I did it once on purpose to a guy in a bar to get his attention, so I can see how guys would get confused,” says Lisa.
For example, a girl might mirror your body language. If you all of the sudden cross your arms, she will too. If you take a drink of your water at dinner, she does right after. If you look across the room away from her, she’ll turn her head and look at what you’re looking at.
That’s why it’s best to assume that if she’s talking to you, she’s open to the idea of flirting with you. Flirting will help you gauge her reactions and determine whether or not she’s interested, sooner rather than later.
The bottom line is this. There are often 2 kinds of cases when meeting women that you can find yourself in: the first situation is that you can control the situation and keep it smoothly as you know how you can approach a woman in proper way and on time, making the woman feel much comfortable with you and do not hate your effort to approach her. The second one is the one where you are not the favorite type of the woman you like and you simply cannot do anything about this. Tip for you: Move away and find another chance with another chick.
She is facing you. Her head, torso and feet are angled to point directly at you. BINGO! She is fully engaged and is unconsciously making it obvious that she is interested in you. That’s the green light to go over and say, “Hi.”