People’s pupils grow with interest. They become larger when they see something they like, enjoy, or are aroused by. When someone is aroused, their brain is being stimulated which then causes the pupil to open up allowing more light to come in which in turn allows them to see better.
i was talking to a girl a lot this past week and she did a few things that ring a bell and idk if she’s interested or not… so first thing she didnwas she seperated herself from her freind she had been next to practically the entore time to sit next to me, when she sat next to me she kept alternating between a position where her knees were on the ground, butt back, chest down, and another position where she had open legs with both feet turned towards me, then we were also doing a group project after that and me and her had finished what we needed to do and were watching the other people work, we were both standing and not talking to each other at the time and then all of a sudden she leans on me for a good 3 seconds, she had her head on my chest and everything, then after she stood back up she kinda laughed a bit and said sorry
Because women are less perceptive, they tend to have more subtle ways of flirting. Men will “hit on” a woman, going out of their way to express and cultivate interest at the same time. In contrast, women don’t want to make it super obvious that they’re flirting. This means you have to pay more attention to catch those signs at first. But once you learn how to recognize them, you’ll start having a lot more fun when you go out.
One of the things that any man seeking success with women must learn is how to read women body language. Her words might say one thing, but what her body language says is going to tell you a lot more about what she’s thinking and feeling. Learning how to read her body language is going to take some time and practice. But with this crash course in women body language, you should be able to start making serious inroads the very next time that you go out.
A few weeks later, I’m sitting in a sunny conference room on the campus of Stanford University, surrounded by MBAs, VPs, and CFOs—all of us hoping to become more confident and assertive. Our guide is psychologist Deborah Gruenfeld, PhD, an expert in the body language of power. (Today’s lesson is an abbreviated version of her ten-week course, one of the most popular electives at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business.) Standing at the front of the room in dressy jeans and a stylish velvet jacket, Gruenfeld looks authoritative yet approachable. And she wastes no time getting down to business, launching right into a lecture on, of all things, how to sit.
The leg twine is one of the most appealing sitting positions for women. It occurs when one leg is tightly pressed against the other making it appear extremely toned. Coupled with legs pressed together tight, woman, during seduction, will rub her upper thigh. This adds an extra element of intensity to her appeal for approach and shows men the type of touching she is expecting and imagining.
When the game ends, I approach the coach, positioning myself on a gentle rise behind the backstop so we’re the same height, and ask for a few minutes of his time. Following Gruenfeld’s advice, I decide to focus on two things: maintaining eye contact and keeping my hands on my hips, elbows out. Although I can feel my pulse in my neck, I’m pretty certain I look self-assured.
So if you want to make a woman feel comfortable, try matching and mirroring some of her body language. Don’t make it too obvious and truth be told, if you genuinely feel a connection, you’ll do it without thinking about it.
And I’ll do it for less than the cost of a cosmopolitan. Even if you’ve never heard single fact about body language before, you’ll find out in this book what a powerful tool it can be both for you and for her.
Not all the sexual gestures performed subconsciously mean that she wants to have intercourse with you- it just means that she’s interested in you, and sex appeal is the brain’s natural response to attraction.
The cool thing about positive and negative body language is that you can actually use it to create attraction with women. If a woman is giving you attitude or saying things you don’t like you can respond simply with a bit of negative body language. Angle your body away and let her see that she’s losing your attention. This shows you’re a high-value guy who simply doesn’t put up with that kind of behavior. As a result you’re going to come across as that much more attractive to her and any other woman watching.
Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. He stumbled across The Art of Charm podcast and eventually signed up for an AoC bootcamp. Excited by the progress he’s made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. By writing about interpersonal dynamics, he’s finally able to put that psychology degree to good use. View all posts by Brian M →
Other than that, the book is well written and edited. If you need a comprehensible body language guide for figuring out chicks, then this is your best bet without hours and hours of searching through information.
Foot pointing is another highly accurate attraction gesture when understood correctly. Foot pointing shows interest! If your crush has both of his feet pointing toward you during conversation, you have his full attention. If he then shifts one or both of his feet toward something else, his attention has gone elsewhere. To be clear, his interest may be in the conversation you are having with him, or he may just be interested in you, AKA, attraction. If your crush constantly has his feet pointing in your direction (even when not speaking with him), he is attracted to you!
The more engaged a woman is the more attention you’ll get from her body. What you want to look for then, is that her head, torso, and feet are all facing you. All of that together is a powerful signal she likes you/the conversation you’re having. However if her head and torso are facing you but one or both feet are pointed elsewhere, that body language is a sign she’s not fully engaged. (To learn more about body language and attraction, check out the Pickup Podcast toolbox episode on how to attract women with body language)
She seems physically uncomfortable around you. A woman who is interested in you will face you directly, lean in toward you and relax her body. Folded arms, a stiff back and leaning away from you are signs that she wants out of the situation.
The easiest way of staying alert to someone’s body language is to take a step back (mentally, not physically), to observe them. If you are too caught up in the conversation and worry about how you are perceived, what to say next, etc. you won’t be able to study their body language at the same time.
#11 Flips her hair. When a woman plays with her hair, she’s flirting without even realizing it. Look for signs that include running her fingers through her hair, twirling a lock around her finger, flipping her hair back and so on.