When we establish rapport with someone, they tend to match and mirror (i.e. do the same thing; sometimes using the opposite hand/leg like a mirror image) our own body language. If you uncross your legs, she’ll soon do the same. If you put one hand on the table, she’ll soon do the same. It’s an unconscious way we respond to people we want to engage with. Many people use this to make people feel comfortable in their presence i.e. they start matching and mirroring the person they’re talking to on purpose.
The age-old question of determining whether a woman likes a man is one that has been asked since the beginning of time. Despite all this time, men still haven’t figured out when it’s okay to make a move and when they need to back off. A majority of the male population either makes a move too early or too late. Sure, there are some Alpha pros out there who are stars at the game but generally speaking, most men bugger it up.
There are literally dozens of ways that a woman uses her body language to communicate her interest and attraction to a man. Reading female body language can be simple or complex but the real trick is recognising clusters and progressions.
“Nonverbal Courtship Patterns In Women,” a study by Monica M. Moore, a Ph.D. in the psychology department at the University of Missouri found that preening, primping and pouting are all things women do when they’re attracted to men. In fact, the study found that these behaviors aren’t just something women do when they’re vaguely physically interested. Preening behaviors are what women do when they’re zeroing in on their man. She’s no longer checking you out. She’s screaming to you, in her own way, that she’s attractive.
Is she dangling her shoe from her toe? Perhaps she lets it drop off her foot completely. This is her way of being coy with you. She may also be becoming aroused, and wants to get rid of an article of clothing.
You can imagine a woman might seductively remove her long hair by bringing it over to one side, or twisting it around a finger then flex it to the side flashing her neck. She might tilt her head to the side by dropping her head and bring her hand up to carefully stroke and caress the skin on her neck just lightly, so as to draw a man’s eyes on her. In more overt cases, woman can even display sexually by coming so close that the neck invites a kiss.
Any facial expression can briefly appear as a microexpression. If a woman is happy but trying to conceal it, it’s only a matter of time until a smile briefly flashes across her face. If she’s trying to hide a negative emotion that will eventually be revealed as well. She may briefly crinkle her nose (the sign for disgust) or curl just one corner of her lip back (contempt). If you see a microexpression that suggests one of these negative emotions it’s probably time to change environments or topic of conversation.
This, of course, is a seduction technique, so it’s so to speak on a level where she isn’t just interested in you — she’s actively trying to seduce you. That means that she’s unlikely to do it while still deciding how attracted to you she is. And women who don’t actively go out to seduce men, likely won’t do it at all unless it’s an unconscious reaction she has when thinking of kissing you!
Keeping up this facade with Kostopoulos clutching my skull, however, proves beyond my abilities. A moment later, the spell is broken, and Amneh and I burst into laughter. Still, these few minutes of playacting have palpably demonstrated how minor physical adjustments can profoundly alter the course of an interaction.
One of the most powerful and sexiest body language signs of attraction a woman usually makes to a man is when she starts facing the man constantly with her whole body as well as looking the man up and down right after that man has approached her. As soon as you notice this type of behaviors in a female, you can confidently indicate that she has just given you a sexual come-on as she is extremely sexually attracted to you.
Be mindful of “cute” gestures. There are a few gestures that women will make to encourage your desire to take her into your arms. The most important of these is the shoulder shrug. Open, upturned palms are also important signs that she’s interested.
Flared nostrils are a sure sign she is physically attracted to you and excited, perhaps in anticipation of physical contact and even a kiss. If you’re seeing this and she’s also smiling and making solid eye contact with you, be yourself and don’t try to overact because it’s you she’s interested in!
Women find men who can make them laugh and smile attractive. By smiling more and telling more jokes, you can force women to find you more attractive. The more you smile, the more others will too. Women also tend to smile more at those they like. If a woman makes a point to smile at you every time she sees you, then she is probably interested in you.
First, the lady spots a man she likes. She catches his gaze and holds it for a few seconds, then looks away. He becomes intrigued, and keeps watching to see if she is going to repeat the same manoeuvre. She repeats it, on average, three times, so now he should have no doubts that he is definitely welcome.
The cool thing about positive and negative body language is that you can actually use it to create attraction with women. If a woman is giving you attitude or saying things you don’t like you can respond simply with a bit of negative body language. Angle your body away and let her see that she’s losing your attention. This shows you’re a high-value guy who simply doesn’t put up with that kind of behavior. As a result you’re going to come across as that much more attractive to her and any other woman watching.
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“Body language is hardwired into our brains, and therefore most often used in unconscious movements,” says Allan Pease, body language expert and author of The Body Language of Love, (Harper Collins, $19.85). “Women are better wired for picking up on non-verbal signals, so if men want to increase their in the mating game, then they should learn how to decode gestures women commonly use.”
The old brain (i.e. the limbic system) is what controls our bodily systems such as heart rate, perspiration, and breathing. Just be aware that as he approaches you his limbic system will be running wild because of his ancient ancestors’ experiences!
A woman who is interested in a man might do things like playfully grab his arm, poke him, bump into him or touch his chest, shoulder or leg. There are many possibilities here. The girl in question will look for any excuse to touch you.
Eye contact isn’t necessarily a sign that a woman is attracted to you. After all, good eye contact is just good social behavior. But a November 2007 study with the riveting title “Women’s Pupillary Responses to Sexual Significant Others During the Hormonal Cycle” found that prolonged eye contact from a woman — anything beyond what’s normal and conversational — was a sign of attraction.
If she is doing something she has done a thousand times before, but it looks as if it requires additional concentration, she might be caught in a fright response. This in turn causes her to freeze or alter her thought pattern causing her to fumble over her task. Imagine taking a draw from a cigarette. She raises her hand to her mouth, catches a glimpse of a man she fancies, pauses stiff, looks down, then after a moment takes a drag. She has been caught in a thought, and her body has triggered a protective fear response. Under normal circumstances, she would simply carry on, but when intimidated by a thought of attraction, her mind froze her body to protect it from drawing attention to itself.
When we are physically attracted to someone, we tend to blush. Not necessarily the kind of full-blown blushing we do when feeling embarrassed (unless you’re outright talking about sex, or love), but our face goes one shade darker due to the attraction, or happiness. The happier, or more turned on, we get, the more our cheeks (and sometimes neck and chest) color. That means that if her face goes redder as the night goes on (and it’s not due to heat and alcohol), she is feeling good around you!
Another body language sign that can be used to gauge how interested she is in you is flared nostrils. When a person flairs their nostrils, it shows they are excited, physiologically aroused, and are preparing for something physical. In the right context flared nostrils may be a signal that she is ready and willing to get physical with you and is a sign she wants to be kissed.