Escalating from friendly to flirtatious touch is a seamless flow that makes perfect sense, both in your mind and body (and hers). As you go through the steps in order, you’re sweeping her into a sensory — and sexy — adventure with you.
Remember that some women (and people trained in sales) are touchy feely by nature. They naturally touch your arm so as to make a point, or hug you to the point of crushing you when saying goodbye. It’s their natural way of being. They wouldn’t do it unless they feel comfortable with you, but it’s not necessarily a sign of flirting.
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Other signs to look out for: Look out for the feet pointing interest signal, where a person might be standing sideways because they don’t want to appear blunt by standing right in front of another person, but the lead foot, or both feet of the guy, will be pointing towards the person that is attracting their attention the most or has captivated their interest. Observe whether the man has large large pupils, whether he is doing the “Superman” or “Package” pose, and/or whether he sucks in his gut. Also observe whether he starts preening himself by fixing his hair, tie, collar or socks, if he tilts his head sideways to appear friendly and non dominant, if he begins mirroring you by copying your body language or asking what you’re going to eat to order the same – as well as if he is constantly looking at your mouth (this can be a sign of interest in kissing). He may also stop slouching to appear taller not only because he wants to appear larger but when men or women are interested in something/someone or are happy, their backs will straighten upwards. When we slouch however, this is a display of boredom or feeling down (notice how many depressive people tend to walk slouching).
A few weeks later, I’m sitting in a sunny conference room on the campus of Stanford University, surrounded by MBAs, VPs, and CFOs—all of us hoping to become more confident and assertive. Our guide is psychologist Deborah Gruenfeld, PhD, an expert in the body language of power. (Today’s lesson is an abbreviated version of her ten-week course, one of the most popular electives at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business.) Standing at the front of the room in dressy jeans and a stylish velvet jacket, Gruenfeld looks authoritative yet approachable. And she wastes no time getting down to business, launching right into a lecture on, of all things, how to sit.
Touch Me, Myself & I: At the beginning of an encounter women may start to smooth out their clothes, stretch out their top which is sticking to their bodies, making them feel self conscious about their figures Deeper into conversation however, and once they have gotten to know each other, the woman will start caressing her body in a sensual way. Women have more nerve sensors than men making them more sensitive to touch. The woman might touch her neck which is very popular, her thigh, her stomach, all in a way that is implying she’d like to be touched that way by the guy, because, as mentioned in the initial article, our brains make our bodies reveal our hidden desires.
Thus, a woman whose pupils become particularly large when looking specifically at a man is probably aroused. This might explain why we seek dimly lit places for intimacy as it causes the eye to dilate further amplifying the romance.
If you make his approach look acceptable to all the others there, he will be especially grateful and immediately like you! His ancient hunter instincts will be greatly stimulated. At his ancient deep limbic system level, he will feel like he just killed the biggest mastodon and saved the whole tribe from starvation!
Find somewhere to sit where you can see all the men — and where they can see you. Spend the first few minutes getting organized, or so it seems. What you are really doing is ensuring that the men notice you. You do this by MOVING with your special female body language! This will stimulate the hunter instincts in men! Every man’s DNA is programmed as an ancient hunter, and he is especially alert to movements of the prey — and that is you!.
She’ll playfully toss her hair exposing her neck, she’ll grab a strand of hair and begin stroking it, she’ll twirl the ends of her hair around. She’ll do of these things while she’s talking to, looking at, or around a guy she’s interested in.
Hahaha, oh my god this was so great. The part that talks about guys touching their parts and spreading their legs as a show of dominance was really funny, they finally have a name for when a guy does that and takes up all the room on public transport, called manspreading. XD
Does she hold your gaze and not look away? Perhaps she is raising her eyebrows while narrowing her eyes. Other clues may be if she has a facial expression of pleasure on her face. She may also be gazing at you and blinking rapidly, or even blinking slowly. Compare her look to those of women who have no interest in your at all.
The key to reading pacifying behaviors – and to reading body language examples in general – is to not just look for one signal, but multiple signals that show the same thing. That way you are less likely to misinterpret the body language signals women give off. (For more information on how to read a woman’s body language effectively, check out Pickup Podcast interview with body language expert Blake Eastmen)
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Female body language can sometimes be tough to pick up on. Microexpressions are a perfect example. This is when an expression will flash across a woman’s face for just a fraction of a second (men do it, too). If you’re not paying attention they can be very difficult to spot. And that would be a shame as micro-expressions are a very accurate gauge for how a woman feels.
I make the points I’ve rehearsed, my words rolling out in my best Diane Sawyer basso. When the coach tries to dispute the facts, I interrupt: “Coach, I’m not here to argue with you; just look at the team’s stats. I’m asking you to consider how you can remedy this situation.”
The old brain (i.e. the limbic system) is what controls our bodily systems such as heart rate, perspiration, and breathing. Just be aware that as he approaches you his limbic system will be running wild because of his ancient ancestors’ experiences!
Gruenfeld and her colleagues have likewise found that when people strike a power pose, they perceive themselves as being physically stronger and taller than they really are. Other researchers have discovered that adopting an expansive posture can even increase a person’s tolerance for pain.
Not all women are like this- maybe she’s just looking for a one-night-stand, or perhaps she’s just really airheaded. Some women will act more tough around the people they’re interested in, and not so much like the examples provided. Keep watch- maybe they act differently when they’re not near you!
If a man sees himself in a situation where he has a woman moving away from him every time he tries to talk with her and come closer to her, he needs to learn how to read female body language attraction right away for help. This situation is a little bit similar to the situation I just mentioned above, and the reason for this case is also the same – may be the biggest chance is that he is actually not her favorite type!
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I finally introduced myself to this girl I like in the gym I see all the time. We locked eyes for about 4 seconds at one point a while ago and thought maybe she was interested too from that. After going up to her she smiled a lot and laughed at something I said. Is this a good sign she is interested and my second question is by me going up to her finally does she know that is interest from me?
The images shown on this page are some of the most reliable individual signals. However, the use of a single signal by a woman does not indicate total attraction but is rather an indicator of interest. As the individual signals become more frequent, clustered and obvious, the more interested (or desperate) is the woman. For example it’s quite common for woman in a nightclub to be subtle in her signaling early in the evening but as the night progresses and she still hasn’t attracted a man these signals can become increasingly obvious.
This is a great book for men wanting to find out if a female is really into you. By just following there body language a man can learn a lot from a female. This book provides an introduction on what to look out for: eyes, surrounds, touching, smile, legs, feet, and the other parts of the body. Knowing what to look out for, will give you a greater advantage to your peers who are not aware of female body language.
It takes two. She can’t make prolonged eye contact with you if you shift your gaze. If you’re uncomfortable by her advances, feel free to look away quickly. However, if you’re interested in her, let the eye contact last for a couple seconds before you let yourself (or her!) look away.
Most guys would love to know for sure if a gorgeous woman they see across a room is attracted to them. Knowing how to read the mysterious female body language signs of attraction is a valuable skill that can be learned (and used to great advantage)!