The human body is pretty hairless. Other than a gene manipulated cat and near extinct shrew; there are no other mammals that are as hairless as humans. (We don’t include fish, reptiles or birds in this analogy.) Long, flowing hair has always been a sign of feminine health and thus sexuality and child bearing ability. By tossing her hair a woman is essentially saying: “look at me and my suitability. I am happy, confident and very healthy!” Long hair is feminine while short hair is masculine. If this wasn’t the case why do so many (male-orientated) lesbians shave their hair as a statement?
Preening is basically any of the “fixing herself” stuff that women do when they’re around a guy they’re interested in. Part of it is nerves. Part of it is that she actually wants to look better for you. Part of it is that there’s just something kind of hot about a woman putting herself together and women subconsciously know this.
Women with large eyes, a small nose, full lips and high cheeks are seen by men as more attractive because these features are usually correlated with high levels of estrogen, which means the woman is more fertile. In men, women like legs, butt, chest and arms. The majority of women favor a man’s butt as her favorite male body part.
If you are a man wondering whether a woman is interested, look for the behaviors above. If a woman is looking around and flipping her hair, pay attention. If she makes eye contact and smiles at you, break the ice and start a conversation. If she likes what you have to say and touches you, then it may be time to ask her out.
The only time this does not apply is with women who are shy, or ashamed of their bodies. These women tend to hutch over as they’re scared if they’re exposed you’ll see something you do not like. Always look upon a woman’s personality as a totality: if she is shy her behavior is different from an outgoing seductress. There are different reasons women get nervous in your presence, but for shy women that’s often a sign they like you. Unless of course, they just feel intimidated by you, but that difference should be pretty clear if you’re paying attention!
“Many of us, especially women, resign ourselves to the idea that if we don’t feel powerful, we can’t act that way,” she explains. “But these new findings imply that you can reverse the equation: By changing how you use your body, you can change your psychology, and ultimately, the circumstances of your life.”
It can be difficult at times to discern if a woman really likes you or not. Is she actually attracted to you, or is she just being polite? Most single men would like to find out before they make a fool of themselves. One of the best ways to determine this is through the body language of women.
Sometimes you’ll also notice a woman subtly bite or lick her lower lips while talking to you. Or she’ll sometimes make a show of putting on her lipstick in front of you. You see, a woman’s mouth is like a sexual gateway and these little things that she does are all designed to draw your attention towards her mouth. So if you notice a woman doing any of these things, she’s definitely sexually attracted to you and wants you to make a move on her.
The results of their observations showed some significant behavioral differences between women who were approached and those who were not. Particularly, women who were approached often smiled at men, danced by themselves, nodded at men, leaned toward them, or tilted their head (neck presentation) — while women who did not get approached performed none of those behaviors. Further, women who were approached were more likely to also look around the room, flip their hair, toss their head, and fixate their glance on a specific man.
Men have always had a fascination with their own crotch. Without caring if it’s in public or not, we’ll freely adjust our packages, especially in situations with large groups of other males where there’s competitive behavior. This can be observed between groups of fans from opposing teams, at a pub, or watching a sporting match, men will constantly start moving around the front of their pants as a way to demonstrate their masculinity. This isn’t something new – in packs of monkeys the leader will spread his legs widely to display his “sword” (men who are feeling cocky or dominant will also sit down while spreading their legs widely). Monkeys also stand up while touching “it” in front of their subordinates and bossing them around. Additionally, ancient tribes used cones to put around their penises as a way of highlighting their rank – the higher the rank of the tribal member the bigger the cone. The ladies man of the 15th century King Henry VIII, popularized a type of underwear where he used a codpiece that protruded from the pants with braies fitted with a flap in the front that buttoned or tied to close when needing to urinate. From these ideas came the modern tightly fitting briefs/jocks (from this piece of clothing comes the name ‘Sports Jocks’ which displays dominance and is popular with the girls). These jocks give men a sense of “protection”, as they can constantly adjust their jocks to draw the attention of others down there. When men are interested in a female they will, in one way or another, draw attention to the genital area most frequently using the “Package” gesture.
Thus, a woman whose pupils become particularly large when looking specifically at a man is probably aroused. This might explain why we seek dimly lit places for intimacy as it causes the eye to dilate further amplifying the romance.
When the curtain eventually falls on Gruenfeld’s class, I am inspired but unsettled. As much fun as it was to unleash my haughty side, I certainly wouldn’t want to cultivate such an unlikable persona. So I ask Gruenfeld if she thinks it’s possible to be powerful without being a jerk.
Actually many of these body language signs are taken from the psychological studies of Paul Ekman as well as the work of Allan Pease and the studies of Joe Navarro (ex fbi agent and body language ‘lie detector’).
In the end, he offers a stumbling, possibly halfway sincere apology and promises to rethink his lineup. When he starts fidgeting with the cap of his Gatorade bottle, I know I’ve won. I thank him for his time and turn away, thinking, “My God, this stuff actually works.” World, here I come.
#6 Looks at your lips. If she looks at your lips more than once, she’s definitely interested. I can guarantee that she’s imagining those lips on hers and evaluating their thickness and ability to please her mouth. If her eyes dart to your lips often enough for you to notice, trust me when I say that she’s checking you out.
Often when a woman is in close proximity to a man that she finds attractive, she’ll stand tall with a slight arc to her back. Women do this subconsciously, and sometimes consciously, to enhance the size of her breasts. Again, something that we men are evolutionarily programmed to find attractive.
…for example. These signals usually don’t occur in isolation (if they do you could misinterpret), but will be done together or one after the other, for instance fiddling with a bracelet and then touching her neck
Touching of any kind generally indicates interest. Much like smiling, it’s a very clear expression of body language that’s almost always unambiguous. Even if she’s touching you in an “accidental” way, if she doesn’t move away, that means she’s not touching you by accident at all. Pay attention to this. It’s one of the clear signs of female attraction that a lot of men miss.
There are some things that are a little doubtful, like openess when she has her ears showing. But overall a lot of it made sense. Like Mirror Mirror(chapter), it’s a classic known fact that when you like someone you mirror them or point your body in their direction. Knowing this, it put me to ease that a lot of the things listed are credible.
Check out her heartbeat. If you are comfortable enough with each other to cuddle, put your head on her chest. If her heart is racing, she’s really interested. If you’re not comfortable enough to get close to her heart, check out her wrist pulse. Lightly grab her hand and rest a finger on her wrist. This is difficult to master, but if you can pin down a racing heart, you have a pretty good sign that she’s very into you.
Playing with objects. When a woman strokes the stem of a wine glass or runs her fingers along the rim of her water cup, she’s trying to get your attention. If the movements are slow and controlled, she’s likely interested. If, however, she’s tapping the glass and pursing her lips, she probably can’t wait to get out of there.
If a man sees himself in a situation where he has a woman moving away from him every time he tries to talk with her and come closer to her, he needs to learn how to read female body language attraction right away for help. This situation is a little bit similar to the situation I just mentioned above, and the reason for this case is also the same – may be the biggest chance is that he is actually not her favorite type!