Any facial expression can briefly appear as a microexpression. If a woman is happy but trying to conceal it, it’s only a matter of time until a smile briefly flashes across her face. If she’s trying to hide a negative emotion that will eventually be revealed as well. She may briefly crinkle her nose (the sign for disgust) or curl just one corner of her lip back (contempt). If you see a microexpression that suggests one of these negative emotions it’s probably time to change environments or topic of conversation.
One of the most “painful” female body language signs showing the disinterest is whenever you try to talk with her and come closer to her, the girl you want to hang out with always brings about one of her friends and lets that one stand in between her and you.
When it comes to dating, using and reading female body language signals is a great tool. These non-verbal signals will help you in dealing with the person but stay focused on what the person is saying.
Well, if the girl you like does this, it’s obvious she’s not interested. However, if she’s fixated on you no matter what you say, you can be sure she’s keen. I’ve feigned interest in many topics just so I could carry on a conversation with a hottie and I can guarantee that I’m not the only one! [Read: 12 obvious signs she really wants you to ask her out]
The single best solution that I can give you to stop this concern is that you should try to stick with the 3-second rule that says: ‘You need to approach the woman you want always within the first 3 seconds of finding her.’
Women are often thought of as more talkative than men (worse, naggers!). Yet, communicating with the ladies is not all about listening to their litany of words. There are special instances like attraction and dating that a woman prefers to relay her messages to a man through her unspoken body language.
People’s pupils grow with interest. They become larger when they see something they like, enjoy, or are aroused by. When someone is aroused, their brain is being stimulated which then causes the pupil to open up allowing more light to come in which in turn allows them to see better.
If a man sees himself in a situation where he has a woman moving away from him every time he tries to talk with her and come closer to her, he needs to learn how to read female body language attraction right away for help. This situation is a little bit similar to the situation I just mentioned above, and the reason for this case is also the same – may be the biggest chance is that he is actually not her favorite type!
Actually many of these body language signs are taken from the psychological studies of Paul Ekman as well as the work of Allan Pease and the studies of Joe Navarro (ex fbi agent and body language ‘lie detector’).
The key to reading pacifying behaviors – and to reading body language examples in general – is to not just look for one signal, but multiple signals that show the same thing. That way you are less likely to misinterpret the body language signals women give off. (For more information on how to read a woman’s body language effectively, check out Pickup Podcast interview with body language expert Blake Eastmen)
To help you deal with this situation, I suggest that you should avoid a common mistake that many men make – men often approach women in a way that may tell her clearly and immediately that “this man is trying to pick me up” obviously trying to pick her up.
For example, if you are standing across a room from a woman that you’re interested in and your eyes meet, notice if she holds eye-contact for more than a few seconds. If she looks away immediately the chances are she’s either shy or not really interested. But if she holds steady eye-contact for more than two or three seconds, you can definitely take that as an invitation to approach. And if she locks eyes with you more than once, she’s practically screaming for you to get over there and talk to her.
Tight Legs: Unlike other crossed leg gestures that show negativity, defensiveness or uncertainty, when women cross their legs in a flirtation environment and don’t use other negative gestures such as crossing their arms, this indicates the female is trying to draw attention to her legs by tightly pressuring one leg firmly against the other to emphasize their high muscle tone. Psychiatrist Dr Albert Scheflen goes on to even suggest that such a gesture is the position a body takes when the person is for sexual performance.
If she is interested, she will tend to subconsciously lean her body towards you. For example, she would try to put her face on one or both hands and lean towards you while she’s listening. It is a scientific fact that all of us would tend to gravitate towards those we are comfortable with and attracted to most of the time.
I don’t think women do this consciousness or intentionally, it all occurs subconsciously. Courting is usually quite a playful en-devour, but there are females that are quite straight forward about their feelings.
Even when talking to a woman, her eyes will tell you a lot about how she feels the interaction is going. For instance if she holds strong eye contact while you talk and while she talks to you, this is a definite sign that she finds you attractive. If she goes as far as to occasionally glance at your lips while you talk, you can bet that she’s really, really into you.
Note – Whenever she comes sits close to you, find reasons to touch you, brushes herself against you that means she is aroused and wants to have some sensual-time. All of these things tell that there is something in you that she likes.
Fidgety lips. If she chews on her lips when she’s thinking or listening, she’s drawing attention to her lips, and thus probably interested. Likewise, look for her to be licking her lips. Not only is this a subconscious way to draw attention to her lips, but women’s mouths get drier when they’re excited and/or aroused, .
Of course me being such the Casanova that I am know all about this 😛 … Okay I’m not much of a practiced person in this area but I’m good at observing others doing it (only difference between stalking and research is a pen and paper) so there’s a few things I’ve seen. In the interaction between males and females something funny always occurs. When guys notice girls they find attractive they will subtly straighten their backs to appear taller, suck in their guts and expand their chests – this isn’t as noticeable at parties where everyone is dressed up, but try going to your local gym’s swimming pool, beach or wherever you can see people at their most vulnerable and exposed. This behaviour is due to the simple fact that what is generally considered “hot” or “sexy” is our gender differences, for instance, men try to highlight their stature and muscles while women will draw attention to their femininity such as their cleavage, long hair (by touching/fixing it), crossing their legs and narrowing them to emphasize their hips, to uses of the sideways head position to expose the vulnerable and delicate neck, and so forth.
“What we do in class is push you to your extremes,” she explains. Her goal is to help people experiment with a range of behavioral styles, from the most dominant to the most deferential. (Just as important as learning how to play high is recognizing when to play low, by tempering displays of authority with self-deprecation and humor.) Once my body has mastered the full range of nonverbal language, she says, I will automatically approach situations with a flexible mix of confidence and humility.
I want you to be aware of these body language cues but don’t seek them out. The last thing you want to do is give her a genuine compliment and then stare at her intensely to see how she reacts. Just be conscious of them.
First I retreat to a porta-potty. Hopping up and down (and wondering what it would take to tip this sucker over), I shake my arms and exhale my “ha-ha-has.” A few minutes later, the pit in my stomach has disappeared and both my body and mind are more relaxed. Striding back toward the diamond to watch the last inning, I try to walk with an assertive posture, keeping my head level, my eyes straight ahead.
When an interested man looks at a woman she will often look down and away. She then will look back at the man out of the corner of her eye to see if she still has his attention. These are signs of attraction. If the “games is played correctly, a relationship may be the result. I agree with don Mateo Sol when he says (above) that its all done subconsciously. The “game” of attraction is not intentional, it’s just how people work.
Look into her eyes for signs of flirting. A direct look that lasts longer than a few seconds can indicate interest. If the woman’s pupils become dilated while you stare into her eyes, she may be getting aroused and want to see more of you. To avoid coming off as threatening, a woman may hold your gaze for a quick moment, but return for a second look to assure you of her interest. When that second look is accompanied by a smile, she is flirting with you.
My Hips Don’t Lie: Women as we all know, have wider hips than men due to the fact that they need a wider pelvic region for childbearing purposes. This also means that women have a wider gap in their crotch which doesn’t allow them to run as fast as men, but makes them walk in a way that emphasizes their hips with a unique wiggle men can’t do. It has been found that the most healthy women with best chances of reproduction, are the ones who have a 70% waist to hip ratio, meaning their waist is 70% the size of their hips – not surprisingly this is the ratio men unconsciously find most attractive. Woman who feel a connection or attraction with the man they are speaking with, will also tilt their hips from side to side resting their whole weight on one leg to make that hip side protrude.
I’m very expressive with dance, but I’ve learned rapidly that dancing in bars and clubs is a dangerous territory for me, as I’ve experienced both men and women trying to physically pick fights with me in some format, in a mocking format and borderline aggressive manner. Needless to say, that now, I favour social dance events which are safe with other dancers who can ACTUALLY dance! (unlike those in the bars/clubs who wouldn’t know rhythm if a rhythm stick whacked them square in the dansical hips whilst the most tribally rhythmatic songs were playing)
Some of the most common ways women indicate sexual interest, and the first class of signals, are displays of submission. They include body lowering or body shrinking, childlike playfulness, dilated pupils, eye widening, neck and wrist exposure, coy glances, smiling, giggling and laughing, touching the neck, head tilting, shoulder shrugs, bowing the forehead, downcast eyes, turning the toes in called pigeon toes or “tibial torsion.”
If you are a man wondering whether a woman is interested, look for the behaviors above. If a woman is looking around and flipping her hair, pay attention. If she makes eye contact and smiles at you, break the ice and start a conversation. If she likes what you have to say and touches you, then it may be time to ask her out.
Personal questions are a common sign of attraction many men miss. I’m talking about questions that go beyond the simple “getting to know you” types of formalities people feel like they have to go through when meeting someone new. Look for questions that you only really ask someone for when you’re trying to get a sense of who they really are. Alternately, she might be asking you questions of a more emotional bent to establish more of a bond and rapport with you.