Be aware of eye contact. A woman will let you know she thinks you’re the most interesting person in the room by staring into your eyes. If you’re just getting to know each other, she will only hold it a couple seconds longer than normal. However, if you know each other well, she may feel comfortable enough to stare deep into your eyes for long periods of time.
I never knew about the wrists before however. I’ve never noticed them pointed towards me, though ive encountered a few looks from women as if to suggest they’d stab me to death if they had a knife however!
Note physical contact. Everyone has a personal “bubble” of about 18 inches (45.7 cm). If she gets into your personal space, or even finds excuses to touch you, you can bet she’s interested. Be ready for any “tests” she might make for herself—stepping into your personal space to let someone walk past, touching your arm as a condolence when you’re sad, or putting her hand on your knee to emphasize that she finds you funny are all quick breakdowns of the physical barriers to see how you react.
She’s trying to show off her neck and before you blast it, keep in mind that the neck is a very sensual and sensitive part of a woman’s body. In Japanese culture, a woman’s neck is extremely erotic and glimpses of it should be looked at as a treat.
Another body language sign that can be used to gauge how interested she is in you is flared nostrils. When a person flairs their nostrils, it shows they are excited, physiologically aroused, and are preparing for something physical. In the right context flared nostrils may be a signal that she is ready and willing to get physical with you and is a sign she wants to be kissed.
The eyes averted downward evoke a protective response from others. They say “I’m shy and I’m submitting to you because I’m attracted to you” or “You’re the boss and I’m looking down because you are dominant and I threatened by you and respect you.”
Check out her heartbeat. If you are comfortable enough with each other to cuddle, put your head on her chest. If her heart is racing, she’s really interested. If you’re not comfortable enough to get close to her heart, check out her wrist pulse. Lightly grab her hand and rest a finger on her wrist. This is difficult to master, but if you can pin down a racing heart, you have a pretty good sign that she’s very into you.
Lips become the center of attention – Face is surely the first thing that you notice about someone first. Lip-biting just makes it possible by drawing attention towards the lips. This will intrigue the person you like.
What do these barriers look like? They could be anything. A woman crossing her arms or holding a something across her chest (a drink, bag, book, etc) are all forms of barriers. If you’re sitting across the table from a woman she may move her water glass directly between you to construct a barrier, or place it to the side to remove it. If she’s sitting she can create a barrier by crossing her legs away from you, or open up to you by crossing her legs in your direction.
The neck exposure display is done by removing long hair or by simply canting the head to the side. It says, “I’m trusting and submissive to your dominance and am showing you this by exposing my vulnerable neck by canting to the side or removing my hair. I trust that you won’t harm me.”
Body language that shows a girl is nervous can be a great thing to see. After all, if a girl is nervous it can be a sign she likes you and wants to make a good impression. It also gives you a chance to help her calm those nerves – which is a surefire way to get a girl to like you and want to be around you more often.
Excellent post! I was just thinking about this topic the other day. The framework you provided was exactly what I needed to share with some friends who needed help understanding and upgrading their game.
And additionally, plan ahead and let the men know you are a healthy woman and proud of it by showing a little skin on shoulders, upper arms, and back — and anywhere else socially acceptable. Men love to see a woman’s skin! Clean, clear, and smooth skin is a sign of good health, and that is high on men’s unconscious desired traits in a mate so he can produce healthy offspring. This mating game is serious business, so don’t leave anything to chance.
Psychologists believe that people often transfer inner feelings to external objects. So by stroking the stem of a wine glass (for example) a woman is using female body language to say “stroke me”. By running her a pen across her lips she is saying “kiss me”. These female body language signals should not be confused with “agitation” gestures that indicate that the woman would rather be somewhere else. The difference is in the speed with which they are performed. Slow and sensual is good – fast and “jerky” is bad. Wine glasses, table ornaments, sun glasses and pens are common objects used for “toying”.
A woman is drawing your attention to her if she tosses her hair from her shoulders and face to expose her bare skin. Unconsciously twirling hair strand on her finger and/or slowly running fingers through her hair are also signs of interest. Apparently, if she jerkily touches her hair, she could be feeling impatient or embarrassed. Do not feel hopeless, though. You can fix things by not being over dominating as you speak to her.
Have you ever noticed how when you’re hanging out with a group of close friends that you sometimes start mirroring their bodily actions? Psychologists actually have a term for this called “postural echo.” This is a subconscious reaction that indicates comfort and rapport and, in the case of a woman you are flirting with, attraction. Lean in and notice if she leans as well. Pick up your drink and watch to see if she picks hers up too. If she does, this is a strong sign that she’s attracted to you.
So far science hasn’t found conclusive evidence for pheromones but many scientists still think it a possibility and continue to investigate: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-science/201211/human-pheromones-fact-or-fantasy
A woman who doesn’t enjoy your company is unlikely to be into you, whereas one who does is likely to be, whether as a friend, or more. The easiest way of showing we like someone’s company is to smile. Of course it depends on what topics we talk to someone about (deep revealing details about your terrible childhood probably won’t make her smile, while great jokes will make her smile whether she’s attracted to you or not!), but smiling tends to happen naturally when we speak to someone whose company we enjoy.
In this approaching-a-woman action, the man gives a woman stranger the power to publicly judge him and announce her opinion to the world! She can indicate that he is looking “good and desirable”. Or she can reject him as the worst sleazeball, scumbag, and bag-of-crap in the Universe! And everyone there will see her decision of what he is. That is a scary and powerless feeling! Many guys won’t even play that game and just get drunk instead.
Enter – Secrets of Body Language. This book gives readers insight into the different zones that make up our personal lives – The Public Zone, the Social Zone, The Personal Zone, and the Intimate Zone – and gives us tips to recognize and understand what is happening in each. This great read goes into body language, dressing cues, and the messages that the eyes have to give – “But the eyes go way beyond this in their ability to communicate, and the voluntary clues they provide….”
I want you to be aware of these body language cues but don’t seek them out. The last thing you want to do is give her a genuine compliment and then stare at her intensely to see how she reacts. Just be conscious of them.