For example, a girl might mirror your body language. If you all of the sudden cross your arms, she will too. If you take a drink of your water at dinner, she does right after. If you look across the room away from her, she’ll turn her head and look at what you’re looking at.
“It is concise, well-structured, and gives valid information that a purchaser of this book would be looking for. There is no wool over the eyes here – my smile says I like it, my lips say it is a must read! A++”
This is both subtle and obvious at the same time. Essentially it means: “I’m stroking and touching myself because I’d really like to be stroked and touched by you”. Also, by touching herself in this way a woman draws a man’s attention to those erogenous zones that she thinks are her best assets and will appeal to him. Thighs, neck and ankles are all favourites. It is fair to say that women are very aware of the way that this subconsciously affects men and will do it deliberately. Where it is subconscious it is a truly reliable indicator of a woman’s feelings.
Men are said to love this body language signal. It’s origins and the reasons why it works are still a mystery. There is nothing like the Lower Lip Nibble to subconsciously give a man an injection of pure of testosterone. The lower lip is gently gripped by the teeth and with sensual slowness allowed to slip away. Done well and without awareness this can drive a man to his knees – done badly it becomes a parody. Strangely, this is a powerful sex signal between women (lesbians) and is used by the submissive female to indicate interest in the dominant potential partner.
What really happened there was you (the man) simply didn’t know how to interpret the unspoken signals the woman was sending over to you. If you had known what they were and what they meant, the outcome could have been very different indeed!
Hair flipping, swishing, combing and general preening, plus a smile, are the main flirting feminine body language cues women use to get men’s attention. Other very effective feminine body language tactics are: walking with an exaggerated roll of hips, relaxed swinging arms, chest out, and head held high with a soft smile.
But as mentioned before merely spotting these behaviors doesn’t mean the girl is definitely interested. What you want to see is an increase in these behaviors from her usual baseline. If you see multiple flirting signals that all deviate from typical behavior, then you can be far more certain that she’s interested in you.
It’s really important when looking at body language to look at the full picture. A woman giggling a lot can mean she likes you, but it can also mean she’s a giggly kind of person. If she touches herself seductively while looking at you, she’s trying to seduce you for one reason, or another, but if she doesn’t do that, it might simply mean she’s too shy to do so. She could still want to seduce you, or be seduced by you. And shy or not, we’re all distracted sometimes due to events in our lives, but it doesn’t mean we aren’t interested in the person in front of us. It just means we’re pre-occupied.
This could be an evidence that the two of you are getting well together and are ready for the next level- the courtship stage. For example, you may lean towards each other at the same time. However, lack of mirroring does not necessarily indicate a lack of attraction between the two of you. It just means that you haven’t reached that level of intimacy yet.
The one thing I do advise is to re-evaluate why you feel someone in a relationship can hurt you. If there is pain involved in love then it was never a healthy type of love to begin with, it was a conditional one.
Likewise, flirting doesn’t mean that someone actually likes you. It means they want to flirt with you. Bartenders often flirt with everyone. Sales people too. They have no intention of taking it anywhere beyond making you smile; ensuring you’re having a good time.
Many biologists think smiles have roots as a fearful gesture, as a sort of “fear grin.” Today though, human smiles are a universally submissive gesture but they can also symbolize pleasure, amusement, aggression, or anxiety (grimace). These other emotions never truly supersede the most common purpose of the smile which is to show submission.
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Whichever reasons for that woman acting aggressive and bitchy toward you are, I recommend that you should keep your head on addressing the challenges you meet precisely and learning necessary skills for you to deal with and beat off these challenges.
However, at dance events, I have experienced 3 women try to prick tease me. a couple of them after we shared dances, even bent right over infront of me – like within 3 metres of my vicinity. Why do they need to do this to me? I’m not handsome and I wouldn’t say I’m really ugly either in fairness, reassessing the fact that I’m actually 39. Maybe reading body language could have been a way of saying that ive mis-interpreted some of them as I was always used to being seen as the ugly duckling when I was a teenager upto 18/19. maybe growing my hair long in my 20’s was more of a damaging product admittedly. shaved it at 35.
What’s more, when a woman arches her back, she stretches up, which, again, draws attention to her. Think of it as a peacock strutting its feathers… And if you start paying attention to your own behavior, you’re sure to notice that you stand a bit taller when you next see a beautiful woman.
I mention this experiment as it’s a great thing to focus on building that kind of intimacy on a mental level during a date, before you attempt something physical. The more comfortable we are with someone, the greater the chances of us inviting them into our personal space.
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Awesome and useful book! Reading this book certainly makes it easier to understand other people’s actions and reactions. I think this book is perfect for employers as they need to analyze the persons that work for them and understand their basic needs, this will help strengthen and create long lasting relationships. There are also lots of other great tips you will learn from this book I am sure. I’d suggest this to everyone!
Hairdressers and masseuses do it all the time as well. “I never do it on purpose, but it does happen and sometimes the guy will then start to get flirty with me because he’s thinking I did it for him. But, I did it once on purpose to a guy in a bar to get his attention, so I can see how guys would get confused,” says Lisa.
What do these look like? They could be anything. A woman crossing her arms or holding a something across her chest (a drink, bag, book, etc) are all forms of barriers. If you’re sitting across the table from a woman she may move her water glass directly between you to construct a barrier, or place it to the side to remove it. If she’s sitting she can create a barrier by crossing her legs away from you, or open up to you by crossing her legs in your direction.
This is actually one of the most useful tips on how to read female body language and facial expressions that I would like to introduce in this entire article and want you and my other readers to learn and remember for good!
I stand up, walk a few paces, then slowly turn to face her. My weight is evenly balanced on both feet; my hands rest lightly on my hips. I am about to respond when I feel Kostopoulos’s cool hands grasp my head from behind, lifting my chin higher and lengthening my spine.
These relaxed postures, Gruenfeld says, all involve claiming space. But they do something more: Recent research suggests that a powerful posture—from the tilt of your head to the turn of your toes—sparks a biochemical reaction in the body that actually makes you more powerful.
As you’re flirting, see how she reacts — “good” or “bad”. This will determine how to proceed. Typically, she’ll show multiple signs at once (laughing, sitting close, facing you, strong eye contact) that you can pick up on.