If you are standing with this woman in a group, or you’re at a bar, or a party, where she has spotted you and she turns her body towards you, this could be a sign she’s interested in you. Women tend to angle their body in the direction of their desires.
“She’s not always screaming for attention. It can just be confidence in herself and her sexuality,” says sex therapist Chris Donaghue, Ph.D., who adds that cleavage aside, another non-verbal cue to watch for is to see if her body is turned toward you and leaning in as you talk.
If a woman slowly touches her own body, or face, in a seductive manner, it makes you think of doing the same. In other words: it’s one of the oldest tricks in the seduction book to make a man think of you in a sexual manner. she is aware of seduction techniques, she might very well try this one on you if she likes you!
Eye contact isn’t necessarily a sign that a woman is attracted to you. After all, good eye contact is just good social behavior. But a November 2007 study with the riveting title “Women’s Pupillary Responses to Sexual Significant Others During the Hormonal Cycle” found that prolonged eye contact from a woman — anything beyond what’s normal and conversational — was a sign of attraction.
For example, some women are naturally flirty and will do a lot of touching during conversation. So if you think a girl is interested in you just because she’s touching you then you may be mistaken. What you want to look for is how a girl touches you compared with how she touches everyone else. If she touches you more frequently than everyone else, or in more personal areas (she touches your chest while just touching everyone else on the arm) that difference is how you know she’s interested.
There are exceptions of course, such as when a girl is nervous or shy and doesn’t talk a lot around a guy she likes. But in my experience, even shy girls who liked me eventually opened up to me and talked a lot more.
For many guys, that’s already enough negative self-talk happening inside your head to cause you to lose your nerve. You avoid looking at her and find an excuse to turn and leave the room as fast as you can.
That’s when it dawned on me that I am a pathological apologizer. The habit may be most obvious on the soccer field, but it doesn’t end there. The other day, someone phoned my house by mistake, and when she said, “Oops, wrong number,” I replied, “Oh, I’m sorry.”
Wrist Display: There are certain vulnerable spots in our bodies due to their fragility or delicacy that we tend to protect: our neck, throat and wrist being some of them. Most people if you observe, usually walk with their wrists facing the sides of their body as a way of protection, however, if you observe some people with mental illnesses such as schizophrenia sufferers, they will walk with their palms and wrists facing backwards as an additional protection. Plenty of over-the-top gay men use the wrist display constantly even walking around with it as an attempt to look effeminate. When women are interested in men they will slowly start showing him glimpses of their wrists and the more they like them the longer the glimpses will last – this is why the wrist has always been considered a highly erotic area as women have more nerve receptors there making it more sensitive, which is where applying perfume on the wrists comes from. There are a variety of ways women choose to expose their wrists, from touching their wrists themselves (Touch Me, Myself & I technique), to putting their wrists on the table in front of a male, as well as the popular wrist exposure that comes with women smokers who do it quite obviously.
Women can blush for many reasons. It may be due to embarrassment, or when the attention is all on them. It could also mean that they’re really attracted to you. A pink or red face can signify pleasure. Try to put it into context, as it could be you who is making her blush.
When a connection is made, the voice may match or mirror the object of her affection. She may speed up or slow down speech, increase or decrease volume, alter pitch or finish sentences. These are extension to mirroring and show that commonality is being fostered.
A woman who giggles a lot at what you say is showing appreciation for your words. It’s an age old mechanism for making someone feel good, as you no doubt will. We want to make people we like feel good, as it makes them more likely to like us. For most women though, this is an unconscious reaction — they instinctively giggle when you say something they like, or when they feel a wave of attraction for you.
Unconsciously, he will be eager to please you and say, “Thank you for not making me look like a failed hunter!” This is all going on at an unconscious level. At a conscious level, he is probably aware that everyone is watching him. He will do everything to show everyone there that you accepted him eagerly. Often this is done by offering you something like a drink, food, or cigarette so that you will reach out and accept it. That is a symbolic gesture indicating that you accepted him. At this moment, it is extremely important for him to show the world that he is not a failed hunter and a useless pile of mastodon crap. That is how he would feel if you rejected him now in front of everyone there.
Actually many of these body language signs are taken from the psychological studies of Paul Ekman as well as the work of Allan Pease and the studies of Joe Navarro (ex fbi agent and body language ‘lie detector’).
The first thing you can usually observe in male and female relations is that the girl makes eye contact with the guy she likes, and once the guy has spotted the girl making eye contact the two of them will lock each others gazes for a few seconds until she looks away. The guy then confused, sits there watching whether she does it again, which she usually does and this time smiles or giggles a bit giving the guy the confirmation he needs to decide to approach the girl. However, before doing so the guy and girl alike will both start grooming themselves: the guy will fix his tie if he has one on, straighten his pants and shirt as he gets up, and the girl will start playing with her jewelry, fiddling with her hair and crossing her legs. Once the guy reaches the girl to talk they will initiate a conversation of some sort – short into the conversation you can usually see how things are going. In the best case scenarios they are joking around, she is laughing as she taps his wrist, arm or shoulder sometimes even removing pieces of lint from his clothing as a sign of affection and caring. All these subtle physical touches slowly create an intimacy, as they are both opening up and getting comfortable in each others Intimate Zone.
It takes two. She can’t make prolonged eye contact with you if you shift your gaze. If you’re uncomfortable by her advances, feel free to look away quickly. However, if you’re interested in her, let the eye contact last for a couple seconds before you let yourself (or her!) look away.